1) ask ourselves what are they not getting from their life (unfufilled needs) 2) what faulty pattern matching is going on 3) what are their metaphors telling you about what they need and about them
@@cheyenneoliver5835 My take on your question is that there is always a specific cause(s). They and we just don't know exactly what it is. That's where ongoing assessment with the right questions begin the process (i.e. durations, triggers, thought process and content, etc.), and the use of the 3 topics from this video.
1. what emotional needs not met and unfulfilled 2. what is faulty pattern 3. what metaphor is being used by the client for their need not met thanks for 3 golden tips for Identifying cause of pain in client......
I liked how you used the analogy of the light coming through the stained glass in reference to consciousness coming through the emotional ego structure.
I’m not a therapist or even studying to be one, just someone that is dealing with a lot of depression and uncertainty. I was feeling particularly down today and this video helped to teach me some new ways to have better control over my negative thought processes. You definitely have a new subscriber. Thanks for putting out this content!
I'm seeing a psychiatrist tomorrow the first time in my life. I searched this video out because I couldn't figure out how will I explain myself tomorrow. I don't want 5 sessions just to explain myself, my problems, especially when it's costly. This video helped a lot to organise my thoughts. Wish me luck.
Am a psychologist from Nigeria, have applied some of your techniques and they worked.... Pls sir, can I get a link to take your courses..... It would help me in the clinical line
Attempting at Being your own therapist is equivalent to being inside of a cereal box trying to read your own label. Invest in your wellness from a trained specialist. 😊
I was asking myself this question one week ago and you just gave me the answer. I love your channel. but once we know all that. how to approach the client.
The 2nd technique reminds me of the DBT concept of vulnerability in a behaviour chain analysis. What old history is showing up right here, and is the history affecting us? Ex: Someone asked for support in the past but was met with reprimand from their supervisor. This may be a pattern in their life when they ask for support When they want to ask for support with a manager who appears friendly they are highly apprehensive due to their past history.
I feel hypnotherapy might be the most appropriate form of therapt for me. However, I can't meditate even though i practice every week for about ten years. I am concerned I wont be able to be hypnotized either.
Hypnosis is a beautiful, gentle and very effective therapy. A good hypnotherapist will help you go into hypnosis....its nothing like what you generally see on you tube. Best decision I made was to study it xx go for it xx you won't regret it
I don't even have the privacy I need to feel safe, but I don't believe we are beyond hope ;) There must be some way out of any misery, we have to find it some way. Don't despair, dear, keep looking. I wish you all the luck you can handle on your way.
The premise that I'm supposed to just be ok now takes away my opportunity to get fulfilled in my childhood teens and 2os (age 31 now) and I see only hideousness in aging.
The idea that it's my responsibility to get better and enjoy life just forgives the psychopath bullies that the society loves and gave scholarships to. I hate and distrust you all monkey demon monsters I hate my species.
@@SporadicUploads1there are some bullies out there indeed. but please don't forget there are also kind people. and that those bullies were bullied themselves. a person that receives love & attention and feels his life has meaing won't bully others..
@@SporadicUploads1 Keep looking for ways to address even those old needs in some way. I was also bullied and very lonely as a child - my takeaway: I need to make firends (look for information on how to make firends in your 30's, lookup videos on how to self-reflect, heal the issues I am able to heal on my own, search for support addressing the rest, ask yourself what kind of people you would like to have as friends and what kind of people you should avoid, figure out how to tell them apart, read stuff on how to build and maintain healthy relationships, how to handle conflict and so on...) I was preventented from continuing education after highschool - my takeaway - I would like to get back to school at some point (is it possible currently? If not why? what would be necessary? when could I start? What exactly would I want to learn? and so on...) I was in an abusive relationship for my whole 20's - my takeaway - I want to experience real love and a healthy relationship with mutual respect and support (what does a healthy relationship really look like? how to spot early signs of toxicity? how to tell apart healthy and toxic relationships? How start on a proper foundation? How to heal my insecurities that are holding me back? and so on...) These are just a few examples for self-reflection and problemsolving. You have to figure out what your most important needs are and how to address them now or in the near future in order to heal those wounds.
dude, im a reasonably smart guy, but that opening nearly had me switching off completely - id skip the long unecessasry prelude to your otherwise good content
How about the natural fact that we all share a emptiness that only the Living God can fulfill, and a person life will be faulty in someway until they get to know the one who only can fill it
Mental Health and Cairo Egypt Gazing Up Stain glass Window; Rainbow: methofore shapes and colors; light from the same source = the sun. Local shape and color in that church; facade; enfused prejudice proble,s and need; bambozled;
1) ask ourselves what are they not getting from their life (unfufilled needs)
2) what faulty pattern matching is going on
3) what are their metaphors telling you about what they need and about them
Thank you. The actual content begins at 03:29
Thank you!
What if it's not any specific thing that's causing their unhappiness, like sometimes depression can be without a specific cause?
@@cheyenneoliver5835 My take on your question is that there is always a specific cause(s). They and we just don't know exactly what it is. That's where ongoing assessment with the right questions begin the process (i.e. durations, triggers, thought process and content, etc.), and the use of the 3 topics from this video.
What type of therapy would this be? Cognitive Behavioral Therapy? Or?
1. what emotional needs not met and unfulfilled
2. what is faulty pattern
3. what metaphor is being used by the client for their need not met
thanks for 3 golden tips for Identifying cause of pain in client......
I liked how you used the analogy of the light coming through the stained glass in reference to consciousness coming through the emotional ego structure.
Absolutely love your channel. Studying to be a therapist right now and I wouldn’t be able to get through it without your help
if you believe that, his content is failing you
You had me at what are they not getting from their life, what an important place to start
Absolutely invaluable information. I’m a counsellor and this is so helpful when supervision is not accessible
With the Glass stained windows you are sharing an amazing metaphor! Thank you.
Most beautiful mataphor about the human individual I ever heard.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Sir, I just started watching your videos and I am loving it already
This channel has helped me so much as a developing therapist. Thank you for your wisdom and insight!
I’m not a therapist or even studying to be one, just someone that is dealing with a lot of depression and uncertainty.
I was feeling particularly down today and this video helped to teach me some new ways to have better control over my negative thought processes.
You definitely have a new subscriber. Thanks for putting out this content!
I'm seeing a psychiatrist tomorrow the first time in my life. I searched this video out because I couldn't figure out how will I explain myself tomorrow. I don't want 5 sessions just to explain myself, my problems, especially when it's costly. This video helped a lot to organise my thoughts. Wish me luck.
@@billycasper3351 how did it go?
big respect to your knoeledge
Very insightful! I learnt a lot in 8 mins about thought patterns. I was wondering if you've created any podcasts?
I am a very busy counselor and love your channel!
I hope i became counselor also like you in the future!
very pragmatic approach!
This is brilliant.
Am a psychologist from Nigeria, have applied some of your techniques and they worked.... Pls sir, can I get a link to take your courses..... It would help me in the clinical line
Really a good conversation!
binge watching your videos so that i can be my own therapist
Attempting at Being your own therapist is equivalent to being inside of a cereal box trying to read your own label. Invest in your wellness from a trained specialist. 😊
@@sheiswomantomessalynn5562 Who can then help teach one to be their own therapist eventually
@@sheiswomantomessalynn5562 Funny and oh so true!
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This was so helpful. Thank you!
Another excellent upload.
Very very useful and love all your videos.
Would be more helpful if you could elaborate more on the third point,Sir .
Thank you very much, this is a big help for me much appreciated
Thank-you for this video x
Really well explained concepts!
Amazing videos!
You are very knowledgeable. I am starting as a counselor and will like to know if you have any tips on how to start building myself for my career
I was asking myself this question one week ago and you just gave me the answer. I love your channel. but once we know all that. how to approach the client.
Your videos are always very helpful and insightful. Thank you :)
Thank you
This is very informative. How can I get more info from you
Love it 😊
Thanks for sharing this valuable information
Great content
Thank you for this. 🙏🏼
The 2nd technique reminds me of the DBT concept of vulnerability in a behaviour chain analysis. What old history is showing up right here, and is the history affecting us?
Ex: Someone asked for support in the past but was met with reprimand from their supervisor. This may be a pattern in their life when they ask for support
When they want to ask for support with a manager who appears friendly they are highly apprehensive due to their past history.
Your voice is so calming..How did accquire all these knowledge? Any books you refer?
Read the full description of the video and click on the links.
I like your vids, I’m at Leicester uni and will tell everybody about you
I’d love some insight! Prih-vuh-see but still pronounced Pry-vuh-see... I’ll never understand accents. Or why mine isn’t weird to my own perspective.
That's the problem first you have to be in clear what is a normal life for a human being and that takes a lot of knowledge and discussion
Love this channel
You have the same eyes like Anthony Hopkins...
Thank you!!
I feel hypnotherapy might be the most appropriate form of therapt for me. However, I can't meditate even though i practice every week for about ten years. I am concerned I wont be able to be hypnotized either.
Hypnosis is a beautiful, gentle and very effective therapy. A good hypnotherapist will help you go into hypnosis....its nothing like what you generally see on you tube. Best decision I made was to study it xx go for it xx you won't regret it
In my country therapists without university degree are not taken seriously though some coaches without uni degree are good in fat.
Precious❤️
Wow I am missing every single one of those basic needs except for privacy. I think sometimes people are just beyond hope
I don't even have the privacy I need to feel safe, but I don't believe we are beyond hope ;) There must be some way out of any misery, we have to find it some way. Don't despair, dear, keep looking.
I wish you all the luck you can handle on your way.
I was violently bullied for years in school and cannot ever trust people or like life again what am I supposed to do.
The premise that I'm supposed to just be ok now takes away my opportunity to get fulfilled in my childhood teens and 2os (age 31 now) and I see only hideousness in aging.
The idea that it's my responsibility to get better and enjoy life just forgives the psychopath bullies that the society loves and gave scholarships to. I hate and distrust you all monkey demon monsters I hate my species.
@@SporadicUploads1there are some bullies out there indeed. but please don't forget there are also kind people. and that those bullies were bullied themselves. a person that receives love & attention and feels his life has meaing won't bully others..
@@SporadicUploads1 Keep looking for ways to address even those old needs in some way.
I was also bullied and very lonely as a child - my takeaway: I need to make firends (look for information on how to make firends in your 30's, lookup videos on how to self-reflect, heal the issues I am able to heal on my own, search for support addressing the rest, ask yourself what kind of people you would like to have as friends and what kind of people you should avoid, figure out how to tell them apart, read stuff on how to build and maintain healthy relationships, how to handle conflict and so on...)
I was preventented from continuing education after highschool - my takeaway - I would like to get back to school at some point (is it possible currently? If not why? what would be necessary? when could I start? What exactly would I want to learn? and so on...)
I was in an abusive relationship for my whole 20's - my takeaway - I want to experience real love and a healthy relationship with mutual respect and support (what does a healthy relationship really look like? how to spot early signs of toxicity? how to tell apart healthy and toxic relationships? How start on a proper foundation? How to heal my insecurities that are holding me back? and so on...)
These are just a few examples for self-reflection and problemsolving. You have to figure out what your most important needs are and how to address them now or in the near future in order to heal those wounds.
My needs are too unmet it hurts I dont want to have been born. It was violent bullying in the schools.
2:00 3:20 4:50 6:25
Fantastic
Actually you need psychic powers, and experience and a genuine care... without these things, you haven't got a hope...
Maybe the sun is god and the right question to ask is not what im not getting out of life but instead ask what am not giving to life.
dude, im a reasonably smart guy, but that opening nearly had me switching off completely - id skip the long unecessasry prelude to your otherwise good content
God your amazing
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How about the natural fact that we all share a emptiness that only the Living God can fulfill, and a person life will be faulty in someway until they get to know the one who only can fill it
Mental Health and Cairo Egypt Gazing Up Stain
glass Window; Rainbow: methofore shapes and colors; light from the same source = the sun. Local shape and color in that church; facade; enfused prejudice proble,s and need; bambozled;
Your clients are broken and you know better than they do whatever they say - I won't be coming to you for therapy!
why did you have that impression? he said in the video, "listen to what your clients have to say behind their metaphors"
Thank you